Lesson in life

Hi!

Today I feel like to share some life lessons with the readers. So, here you are the 10 life lessons:

LESSON 1 - Money isn’t everything 
With money, you can buy many things but can money buy you your real happiness? Happiness is not something that we can buy. It is not for sale. Buying stuff may gives you a little bit of happiness but is it the happiness that you looking for? 

LESSON 2 - Start at your own pace
We often tend to like competing with others in life. Maybe we should stop that culture. Take you baby step first. Find out you life purposes, don’t rush into all things at a time. Weigh your options and allow yourself time to think. That’s the best. 

LESSON 3 - You can’t please everyone
If you keep on trying to please everyone, maybe you should stop doing that. You don’t need everyone approval in your life. Some people may like you, some may not. Some may agree with you, some may not. That’s life! Stop seeking others validation. Go with your guts and speak up to yourself. All in all, stay true to your self. 

LESSON 4 - Health is invaluable treasure
Many of us takes our good health for granted. Believe me, you shouldn’t. Appreciate yourself and your healthy life. Take a good care of your self and don’t let yourself regret it later on. 

LESSON 5 - You don’t always get what you want
Having a plan in your life is good but, sometimes things will not go as the way you want them to be. No pressure then. Sometimes the flop may lead you to the direct path. Or maybe sometimes you need to explore more before you could find the right direction in your life. 

LESSON 6 - Life isn’t always about you
You are not living alone in this world. Couldn’t deny that we always focused on what’s happening in our own lives. But, try to look around you also. Sometimes your life may affect other people or sometimes you are the one that may affect others. 

LESSON 7 - Do not shame for not knowing 
You don’t have to know all the things in this world. Don’t be ashamed for saying you don’t know. Pretending to know is much sucks than admitting you don’t know. Don’t make life complicated. Life is a continuous learning process. If you don’t know, people will let you know. There’s no harm in admitting our uncertainty. 

LESSON 8 - Love is not just a feeling
Love is a choice that you make. Be kind, be faithful, respectful, supportive and forgiving. That’s the choice that you have to make. Relationships take work. It can be easy but it also can be incredibly hard. This will all be back to us to choose. How we want to think, act and speak in a relationship.

LESSON 9 - Don't lose your perspective
Perspective is a beauty thing. You may struggle in your life, upset, worried etc. But don’t lost your perspective. Because as long as you have your life perspective, a single hiccup will means next to nothing to you. Have hold in your life! 

LESSON 10 - Don’t take anything for granted
We always unappreciated what we have until we lose it. Family, friends, health, money and many more. Not everything you have today will be with you tomorrow. Nothing in your life is guaranteed to be there tomorrow. Appreciate what you have today, while you still have it. 


Yours,
dayangbedt

Family isn’t always by blood..

Greeting all!

Have you ever heard the phrase of ‘related not by blood’?
There must be some persons in this world that you consider them as part of your family but you are not bounded by blood with them such as your best friends, adopted family and whoever it is.
So, here’s my unbounded by blood family..

1) My atok angkat - Tok Sam and his wife aunty yasmin (the one on left and third from left)

Tok sam ni diam kat Kelantan. He’s my parents former boss. Dari kecil lagi rapat dengan tok sam sekeluarga. If I go to Kelantan, surely I’ll go and visit them.

2) Pok Nik and Pok Yie

Pok Nik and Pok Yie ni kenal masa aku tengah buat kerja sukarelawan buat kerja buruh kasar baiki dan bina balik rumah mangsa banjir kat Tumpat, Kelantan. Dorang ni kerja tukang jak tapi banyak ilmu aku dapat dari dorang berdua. Dua minggu turun kelantan buat kerja sukarela ni, dua minggu tu juga aku dapat sekumpulan untuk kerja dengan pok nik dan pok yie. Semoga berkesempatan jumpa dorang balik! I think I still save their phone number..

3) Family angkat at Sg Lembing

This is my family angkat masa join program operasi khidmat masyarakat di kampus. And luckily I shared the same keluarga angkat dengan Ainun, my besties! Aku ingat nama mak angkat jak, kami panggil dia ummi zarinah. Abah angkat kteorang ni chinese convert muslim. Yang budak kecil tu anak angkat dorang dua. Comel! Manja betul dengan aku. Previously aku ada datang lawat ummi. Ummi siap masakkan sambal petai untuk aku lagi sebab dia tahu aku suka makan sambal petai! Thank you ummi! I hope someday I have the opportunity to visit them again in Sg Lembing. Tapi sadly haritu masa Ainun cari abah kat muzium sg lembing tu, abah dah tak kerja kat situ. Nevermind, I still remember where their house was. One fine day, insha Allah we will meet again.

4) Ainun!

Budak ni aku kenal start dari zaman asasi. Jiran sebelah bilik. Banyak cakap dengan gila kucing! Hahahaha. Pastu kteorang dua2 kaki jalan. Bila cuti sem tu, instead of balik rumah, kteorang berdua prefer untuk jalan-jalan. Pergi la mana yang boleh. Ntah macam mana masa degree kteorang boleh dapat satu kolej juga. So area KL tu memang banyak tempat la sudah kami berdua ukur jalan. Kteorang berdua ni kalau berjalan memang semestinya naik public transport jak dan jalan kaki! Hahahaha. We’ve been to Johor, Pahang and Melaka together. Tapi aku tak pernah lagi la jenguk dia di Kelantan dan dia pun tak pernah lagi sampai Sabah ni jenguk aku. Hahahaha

5) Gadis a.k.a geng katak or recently we got new name - Cauliflower girls! Hahaha

They are my besties since high school. Kalau mau tahu pasal dorang ni, rajin rajin la baca post aku yang lain. We called us geng Gadis jak. Tapi orang lain selalu label-label kteorang. Starting dari geng katak (okay ni gelaran for jurin, syakila, reena dengan farhanah jak). After that baru aku dengan yut join dorang. Tapi aku dari form 1 memang sekelas jak dengan jurin reena syakila ni. Duduk sebelah meja cuma masa tu aku dengan yut join geng nakal a.k.a geng kapak. So ada dua geng la, geng katak dan geng kapak. Dalam kelas jak join sekepala dengan dorang. Yut pula sekelas dengan farhanah masa form 3 ka nda silap aku. Masa form 4, mostly geng nakal ni pindah sekolah and aku still sekelas dengan reena dan jurin, kami ambil kos teknologi kejuruteraa. Yut pula ambil kos biologi, jadi dia sekelas dengan syakila dan farhanah. Six of us established become geng karas start form 4 la. Makan, mandi, rehat, pergi surau, tidur semua kami bersama sama.

6) Smakk batch 1993

Oh ni geng mapulek. Batch sekolah menengah aku. Yes, all of us dari sekolah agama. Dalam gambar ni bukan semua tapi ni geng yang rajin join melepak bila kena seru. Up until now, ramai masih yang single dengan jayanya. Ntah la bila semua akan berumah tangga. Yang paling risau yang belum ada pasangan. Sebabnya nanti tiada sudah geng melepak sekali. Ahli bujangan berkurang gituuu hahaha

7) Rider manis

Okay this is my degree classmate. Yang gegurls sahaja. Half of us sudah kenal dari zaman asasi while the other half from matriks, stpm and diploma. Semua sebaya seusia kecuali lily, our kakak. Tapi lily bukanlah yang kawin duluan dalam kalangan kami ni. Hahahaha. Thera langkah bendul kawin duluan dari lily. Jodoh dia sampai dulu.. tapi sekarang ni ramai sudah ahli rider manis ni sudah disunting. Ada yang sudah beranak pinak sudah ye.. nama rider manis ni tercipta sebab kteorang zaman belajar dulu naik motor ramai2 pergi melepak makan luar. Alhamdulillah semua sekarang berjaya dengan jayanya. Hehe

8) BSUM classmate

Haaaah ni geng sekelas aku. Baik yang gegurls baik yang boboy. Semua pernah tidur sekali berjemaah di studio especially masa mau siapkan assignment. Masa final year tu, almost every day menginap di studio kami. Ada yang siap jadi resident tetap sudah. Haaa, ni la geng bergila masa belajar. Gurau kasar lelaki perempuan pun no hurt feelings sebab tahu sudah perangai masing masing.  Tapi masing masing tahu juga la yang mana boleh bawa gurau kasar mana yang kena berpadah sikit. 4 years degree of awesome with you guys! 

Keeping a small circle is my habit. (tapi macam tidak juga small circle kannn hahahahaha) Idk why but sometimes I like to distance myself from my surrounding. Shutting the door behind me and keeping myself on my own. Alone. Having my own time to reflect myself and building myself back until I’m prepare to face them back. I am bad at keep connected with peoples. But, whoever you are that have ever existed in my life, I do appreciate it. I remember you guys although sometimes I may have been in disappearance for a long time. But deep in my heart, I will never forget you.. Always.

Love,
dayang

What if..

Yesterday was a history,
Today is the present,
But tomorrow is something that we couldn’t confirm yet..

So, tomorrow..
Is there will be a tomorrow for us?.
What if tomorrow never come?
What if we promised someone for tomorrow but there is no tomorrow.
Should we regret it or should we just accept it?

Would you be sad if tomorrow you will lose something?
Or maybe lose someone?
Or maybe you lose your chance?
Or maybe you will not reach tomorrow?

Tomorrow is a mystery..
Will always remain mystery to us..
Same goes to later.

Hence,
Live your life to the fullest.
Never hesitate,
Aim high,
Achieve more,
Create wonder in your life..
Today, current, now!
Before you regret of unable to obtain..
Of what you wish for.


If tomorrow never exist for me, am I prepared? Will people around me be sad? Will I be missed? This thought keeps on coming in my mind recently. Idk why.. Do I have something that I would regret of not achieving? For sure the answer is yes. I hope I can achieve all my goals before tomorrow never exist for me. To be graduated in my master, to have my own house, to have lots of money, to make my family proud, to perform haj, to love and be loved and to have a happy life 🙂

- dayangbedt

The pain is real

Hei there!

Today I feel like to share my story with whoever you are that currently reading this post.
Back in high school days, I am a netball player and hockey also hahaha. Yes, I have been playing netball since primary school and that was my first sport that I am very into it. Dijadikan cerita, masa form 5, I was very determined in winning the game. So, I gave extra effort on that day and accidentally missed step during landed while receiving the ball. Masa ni baru warm up. I think my knee pops, I am totally wasted masa tu. Couldn’t stand up and in deep pain. The pain is from my ankle till my hip of my right side leg. I force one of my friend to pull my leg and do some exercise until I ‘feel’ back my leg and tadaaaaa I can stand up back! But it still hurt. However, I still want to be in the game. I told them to keep it quiet and don’t let our teacher know about the accident. So, that day I still in my WD position and yes, we won that game. How happy I am at that moment hahahahahaha

The next two weeks, we have another friendly netball tournament at school but just between us, the exam class students (form 3, form 5, form 6 and teachers). So, every batch need to send two groups where our batch majority know how to play netball very well (most of the netball athletes are from our batch hehe). So, we were against f3 players where most of them don’t know how to play the sport. Bare in mind my leg still not stable and pain. When one of my team pass the ball to me, I was attacked my two of the opposition players and there you go! Jatuh rebah ke atas jalan kau! First time in my netball tournament seluar koyak plus lutut pun koyak! Dua belah lutut luka! Jatuh atas jalan tar yaaaa! Berdarah darahhhhh. So, what I do is I ask for substitute then I run back to hostel, go to my room, change my pant and run back to the game. I request them to let me in back in the game. Dengan lutut luka yang belum bercuci belum berbalut, I back in the court, playing in deep pain. Yupp, that’s me. Degil dan tidak tahu erti sakit. Yang penting menang game and yes we won! Hahaha although that was only a friendly match. After that, almost 2 months I couldn’t pray in normal way. I need to sit down while praying. Jalan pun nda normal. Hahahahaha

During my uni time, I played netball in my freshies year only. After that, I seek for new sport which is tenpin bowling. But I never go seek doctor properly regarding my knee. I still active joining lots of campus programme and I always keep on feel like lost balance every time I use my legs for too long (around one to two hours). Thus, during my third year baru la I go to check my knee. But most of the doctors said I just tired, overused of legs or lack of calcium.

The pain getting worst until around 2018/2019 where my back also in deep pain. Around my menstrual time, the pain will be doubled. But I don’t like to consume painkiller and it doesn’t help actually. Just reducing the pain but the pain still there. So in 2019, my colleague suggest me to go check again at clinic. Fikir punya fikir, finally I go clinic for check up. And guess what, I’ve been diagnosed with possibility of slipped disc and ACL/PCL/MCL/LCL or whatsoever related to knee injury. Di sana baru tersentak. Padan muka sebab dari awal tidak pandai mau pergi check.

Now, I have been undergoes physio session for almost 8 months. Waiting for my schedule MRI which is on next month. Glad that after few times physio, the doctor examine me again and said it just maybe the pain is from my knee or hip problem, not slipped disc. Alhamdulillah for that. So now, I just hope the MRI result will be not so serious injury as I don’t want to undergo surgery. I don’t wanttt 😭😭😭 Whoever reading this post, please pray for my health. May Allah bless you with a good health too. Ohh btw, as now we are still in the movement control order period, so I have not go physio for a month plus. Sakit dia, ya ampunnn sakit sangat sangattt. I couldn’t sleep well. Duduk sakit, diri sakit, baring sakit. Not comfortable at all. But, I have this habit where I hide my pain infront of peoples, including my family. I don’t like people sympathise at me because I am sick or not well. Diam-diam jak buat macam normal eventho it actually like a hell painful. The painkiller medicine do not help at all. Makan la sampai berapa banyak biji pun still sakittttt.

Okay, that’s all I think I want to share for now. I hope I can have a good night sleep and the pain go away asap.

Cheers!
dayang

Throwback Sedekad

Hi!

Today, after like for years we have been looking for our ‘hodong’ pictures, finally Yut found that pictures (which I recently hope that it’s better not to be found) 😂
The term ‘hodong’ is only 6 of us know about it hahahaha, no la! Maksud dia hodoh. Tu jeeee..
This signature pose was created during our form 5 graduation day. Hahahaha
So here’s it pictures of #throwbacksedekad!

Hodong pose 🤣

Ustazah Reena

Me 😉

Puan Fehana (Kastam)

Dr Syakila

Yut (Chemist)

Lawyer Jurin

So, it has been 10 years we left our high school but our friendship remains strong until forever! Hehe
Anddd here’s our latest pictures in 2020 ☺️

One with baby Nuh (Syakila’s son)

Yupp, still the cool girls or ladies shall I say in town ✌🏻
Okay that’s all for this #throwbacksedekad post

Yours,
db

Family Tree

Hello there!

I’ve been lost track of time as I just lost my aunty recently. She died due to cancer, may her soul rest in peace.
Yupp, I have been in deepest sorrow as we can’t go back and give last respect to her due to this pandemic issue plus the issue arose regarding managing the deceased.
Then suddenly today, the idea come to my mind that I need to list out my family line to be remembered. Yes, I admitted that sometimes I can be a very nostalgic person. The one that loves to keep all the memories. And yes, I am a keeper and a collector. Couldn’t argue that. I admit it!
But then, somehow I found that it is not easy to listing out all your family members name!
Some of them I don’t even know what are their real name! What a shame 🤦🏻‍♀️
However, nothing better than trying right? So here are the list!

Dad’s side:

Yusuf + Sainun 
  Ismail + Hanies[2016]
    1) Sharifah + Sim Alek
        - Afeela Sim
    2) Sarinah
    3) Saimah + Ibrahim
        - Ariana        - Arisha
        - Arileya       - Arif
        - Aries         - Ariel
        - (girl)        - (boy)
        - (boy)
     4) Sambrih + Ummi Rozana
        - Amni syahirah     - Alif
        - Azam              - Ayish 
        - Adi
     5) Salbiah + Azri
        - Ulwan        - Uwais
     6) Syahir + Nor
        - Tariq
     7) Suzie
     8) Syahirul + Darna
        - Naelah
  Hasnah + Mohd Jair[2009]
     1) Idris + Siti 
        - Izzat Azizi    - Izzat Asyraf
        - Anis Sofea
     2) Mariam + Hamka[divorce]+(new husb)
        - Azman          - Haziatun
        - Azreen shah
     3) Madun + Mazdah
        - Ain            - Syuhada
        - Asyikin        - Hafiz
     4) Mazlan + Sharifah
        - Wan[2002]     - Rohzaimie
        - Syafiqah       - Sharifuddin
        - Ahmad          - Adila
     5) Asmah + (husb)
        - Ayu        - Wawa
        - (boy)
     6) Maryani
  Kunah
  Abdul Mumin + (makcik)[2018]
     1) Dg Suzanah + (husb)
        - girl        - boy
        - girl
     2) Nurul Azwan + Amru
        - Talha        - Zubir
     3) Mokhtar + (wife)
     4) Muhzar
  Ag Ali + Nur Sakinah Teo
     1) Ag Basiran
     2) Dg Badariah
     3) Dayang Baiyinah

Mum’s side:

Teo Khiok Hiang [2014] + Lim Siew Lian
  Teo Ai Choo
  Teo Ai Gek + Uncle Teo
   1) Ah Yong
   2) Ah Yau + Belinda
       - Robin     - boy
   3) boy + Jessica
       - girl         - boy
   4) boy + Jessy
       - boy         - girl
       - boy
   5) Ah Mei + husb
        - girl         - boy
        - boy
  Teo Ai Hiang [2020] + Uncle
  Teo Siak Hui + Margarette Awing
   1) Christine Joo Cheng + Belzigoh
       - Thed.Damian
   2) Catherine Joo Cho 
   3) Cavin Joo Kwan
  Teo Siak Hai + aunty
   1) boy
   2) girl
   3) boy
   4) boy
  Teo Ai Kee + Ag Ali
   1) Basiran
   2) Badariah
   3) Baiyinah Basirah
  Teo Siak Chua + Lily Wong
   1) Karen Teo 
   2) Kelly Teo Joo San
   3) Kevin Teo Joo Hui
   4) Kathy Teo Joo Siew
  Teo Ai Tiang
  Teo Siak Nguang
  Teo Ai Hui + Thomas Liang
   1) Loke Yee
   2) Loke Siang
   3) Lising

So, that’s my family line from both mum’s and dad’s side! Yupp it wasn’t complete yet cause I don’t remember and don’t know some of their name. Whatever it is, they are still my family and I love them very much! ❤️

Love,
dayang

Memories

Hello!

For today, I asked my lil sister to give me an idea what topic that should I write about. Thus, ‘memories’ is it!
Memories can be a good one and a bad one. Of course we all have both the good and the bad in our life.
Among all the good memories that I have, I really like to remember the memories when I am with my friends. Especially during my study time. The high school (specifically during form 4 & 5) and during my bachelor degree time.
I missed the moments when I am a student. How determine I am in achieving my goals.
I am a very ambitious person where I have targets in my mind which I usually will trying my best to achieve it. Alhamdulillah, most of my targets are fulfilled.
I can’t forgot the moment when I received the Best Student Award in my degree time. For sure something that should be proud of. I’m glad that I can proof to my parents that I am still the best student although I have stumbled before (mind you, bad memories ever!)
I started my degree time with a not so good start as in the first semester I didn’t even achieve cgpa of 3.00! What a shame 🤦🏻‍♀️ But, after that phase I do determine that I will show to my family and my friends that I can balance my study with the campus activities. And alhamdulillah, every sem I am among the top 10 in my class (yes I check other’s result - hacked to be exact 🤣) and for my final semester I do received 4.00 for the gpa ☺️
Okay, other than good memories about studying. I found that I can’t forget about the memory when I go abroad.
I rarely go travel because I am a cheapskate person hahahaha. But I have been to Liverpool, Manchester, London, Scotland, Singapore and transited at Abu Dhabi and Dubai (dapat transit pun happy ye! Hahahahaha)
Most of these places I travelled were with purpose. Study for sure! Hahaha okay I am a bookworm! Nerd not so nerd la!
Although it has been few years back, but still I am excited to talk about it and recalling these memories back makes me happy!
What else my happy memories? Hmmmm hard tho!

While for the bad memories, I surely have some of it. Which I prefer to forget of course!
Those memories are the one yang mengaibkan I think. Yes, most of it are too dark! Better to be forget.
But recently, I have opened my dark memories with one of my friend which at that time I think I should face my fear in order to forget it properly. And guess what? It traumatised me!
I woke up in a panic attack every night because of that memories. I guess it’s better if I keep that story for my self only.
My bad memories are really bad bad one! I won’t speak about it again for sure! It is the best that only me knowing about it.
I think most of people also would prefer to forget their bad memories instead of remembering it.
Ingat tu perlu juga la supaya dapat jadi pengajaran di masa hadapan.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger kannn.

So my advice is, don’t let you bad memories influence your life. You are what you are.
Be proud of yourself and let’s create more good memories in life!
Last but not least, I would like to dedicate this song to whoever reading through this post, so here you are, song by Maroon 5; Memories~
https://youtu.be/K_iH2YSaY3U

Sincere,
dayangbedt