Spouse? Choose it right!

Hello readers,

As promised before, I will write about the list/guidance from Islamic perspective in selecting your partner (you can read here about 'Sekufu'). **Disclaimer** This info I extract from the book 'Memasuki Gerbang Perkahwinan' given by JAKIM when you registered for marriage course.

You may choose whoever you want to become your spouse, but the best of the best is to follow the guidance enlisted by our religion. Why? this effort may (insha Allah) memastikan rumahtangga yang dibina mendapat keredhaan Allah. No harm for not following, bukan wajib pun ikut, cuma sebaiknya lah dan amat digalakkan.

Kriteria pemilihan calon Isteri ~

Agama > Keturunan > Kecantikan > Harta

Dan ada satu hadis ni sebut begini:

"Dikahwini akan perempuan itu kerana empat perkara: Hartanya, Keturunannya, Kecantikannya dan Agamanya. Maka pilihlah dari kalangan mereka yang beragama, nescaya kamu akan selamat." (Riwayat Al-Bukhari & Muslim)

It is clearly mentioned that, elok agamanya eloklah orangnya in this hadith. So the other points tu macam supporting factor to be taken into consideration kot. But, not all women out there without agama yang elok is not good enough. Maybe hidayah tu belum sampai dekat dia. Tengok la, kalau dia senang terima teguran, ingin berubah perlahan-lahan, okay la tu kot. Okay, so here are the bonus criteria:

1. Anak dara
2. Berakhlak mulia
3. Keturunan yang ramai anak (for the sake of supaya ada yang menegakkan syiar Islam kot)
4. Perempuan yang tiada pertalian keluarga yang dekat dengan anda

 

Enough with the list of choosing a girl to be married of. Now, we look into the criteria of selecting the husband pula!

Kriteria pemilihan calon Suami ~

1. Menghayati agama
2. Memiliki akhlak mulia
3. Mampu memimpin keluarga
4. Suami yang sekufu

Agama dan akhlak menjadi dua tunjang utama dalam pemilihan calon suami. If both of the aspect are not being taken into consideration, might be the marriage turns into a nightmare. However, family blessing also the other key that need to be taken into account. Restu ibu bapa ni terpaling penting juga supaya bukan sahaja rumah tangga yang bakal dibina harmoni, anda pun hidup bahagia girang ceria bersama keluarga anda dan keluarga si dia. Jangan asyik tengok yang elok rupa je ye! Kalau dapat rupa yang elok tu, Alhamdulillah la..

I am not a pious person also, I'm still learning and also his servant like you.
Peace out,
dayangbedt